tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14397387.post1186744295825598898..comments2024-02-19T19:45:32.122-05:00Comments on Poet Mom: Sunday Scribblings: Punishment and RewardJanuaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13036651950996873368noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14397387.post-88434478832888105812006-12-11T16:41:00.000-05:002006-12-11T16:41:00.000-05:00we gave up one year or two years and put up a fenc...we gave up one year or two years and put up a fence/gate, too. it worked. it didn't teach them anything, but it took away our stress. you can't win either way!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14397387.post-54491138326257809652006-12-11T10:23:00.000-05:002006-12-11T10:23:00.000-05:00Well on one hand Ella is merely being Ella. But I ...Well on one hand Ella is merely being Ella. But I remember reading an article stating the main thing a child does is constantly test the limits of what they can get away with with their parents, and you as the parent constantly having to reinforce those limits. I agree with ren.kat in that you can't compromise with small children. You may have to remove her from Christmas tree activities.Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03961804068202369000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14397387.post-19543909702586918592006-12-10T21:32:00.000-05:002006-12-10T21:32:00.000-05:00We have one of those fences. Maybe that's the answ...We have one of those fences. Maybe that's the answer this ChristmasJanuaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13036651950996873368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14397387.post-42765763315574402172006-12-10T17:03:00.000-05:002006-12-10T17:03:00.000-05:00We put a little fence around the tree--like the li...We put a little fence around the tree--like the little fences they have for dogs. My son did the same around his tree to keep the baby out. see my blog for a picture! (if I can find it).Joyce Ellen Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13494251587598676788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14397387.post-62960766796830822092006-12-10T14:45:00.000-05:002006-12-10T14:45:00.000-05:00I knew I would get some great responses and advice...I knew I would get some great responses and advice from the Sunday Scribbling bloggers! Thanks so much.<br /><br />Rethabile, we try to take as many photos as possible but we're a little slow when it comes to video. But you're absolutely right. We should be filming as much as we can.Januaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13036651950996873368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14397387.post-4612050393117931182006-12-10T11:02:00.000-05:002006-12-10T11:02:00.000-05:00I agree with the previous voices. Especially about...I agree with the previous voices. Especially about turning blue in the face.<br /><br />One further piece of advice: film your kids a lot. Get them bringing the Christmas tree down, eating the heel of your shoe, etc.<br /><br />You'll be happy to show it to them later and say, "See what I mean? Why I yelled at you so?" It'll be your reward. And they'll laugh themselves silly.Rethabilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03523368313680103826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14397387.post-52024573138688659272006-12-10T09:54:00.000-05:002006-12-10T09:54:00.000-05:00No and no and no until you're blue in the face. I ...No and no and no until you're blue in the face. I don't believe in compromising with small kids. Don't touch has to mean don't touch because sometimes it can mean life or death. But we did go for plastic ornaments when the kids were small so that when the no didn't work it wasn't a bloody consequence. I don't like myself for dishing out advice, but I read Don't Shoot the Dog, a few summers ago and had wished I'd read it before our kids were born. Spanking isn't an option here- any form of corporal punishment is illegal- and our kids were "easy"- but it would have made it easier. (How weird that I just left a comment about clicker training with Rel!)ren powell https://www.blogger.com/profile/15593358547415514500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14397387.post-66872918914934828842006-12-10T08:38:00.000-05:002006-12-10T08:38:00.000-05:00Being an expert at this (ahem) all you can do is k...Being an expert at this (ahem) all you can do is keep on saying no. It takes time (an enormous amount of time) and patience, and vigilance, but once you've set up a boundary you have to keep reinforcing it. And then your kids turn out lovely like mine did. I hope.<br /><br />And distraction, like Michelle said, is great too.Mimeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13549790359115165117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14397387.post-22127149392657114402006-12-10T08:08:00.000-05:002006-12-10T08:08:00.000-05:00I always choose my battles carefully. With this on...I always choose my battles carefully. With this one, perhaps remove all but one or two that she can play with from the bottom of the tree?<br /><br />When No doesn't work, try removing kiddo from the situation. All kids are so different that this is a difficult question to take on. My first son responded to a tone of voice, a look--while my second son threw awful tantrums and had to be held in order to keeping him from breaking things. <br /><br />Best of luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com